The first time I heard the word equanimity was from a yoga-instructor on a video I was planning to use regularly. The ambition of doing yoga in the living room was short-lived. However, I was smitten and mystified by the sound and feel of equanimity. I didn't know what it meant and it still feels like its energetic message is "don't box me in." Keeping this in mind, here are some exploratory thoughts about it.
Equanimity comes from the Latin word aequanimitās: aequus = equal - even & animus = mind - spirit - soul. Thus, conveying an even or calm mind beyond the intellectual mind.
In Sanskrit, there is a conceptual parallel linking equanimity to "upeksha," which has to do with looking from the broadest panorama without attachment.
In Buddhist and Hindu philosophy, the term "upeksha" refers to serene impartiality, mental balance or even-mindedness, especially amid pain and pleasure, blame and praise.
Three practices to cultivate equanimity
1. Stop comparing yourself to anyone. If that is difficult for you, notice when you slip into comparison, and as much as possible observe this mental habit pattern from a place of neutrality. In other words, don't judge yourself when you engage in comparison but notice and pause. Being aware will start the change-process.
2. Don't take anything personally. As Don Ruiz says in The Four Agreements, everyone perceives the world through their own filters based on different beliefs, upbringing and so on. Thus, whether you receive criticism or praise, still keep in mind that it is filtered through the other person's senses and experiences. When you're able to stop internalizing other people's opinions you will no longer be controlled by their approval or disapproval. This doesn't mean to ignore other people's feedback or reactions, but to take it on its own terms and less subjectively.
3. Practice Equanimity by learning to stay open-hearted and open-minded through various circumstances and experiences. This is ongoing spiritual work. Notice when you're closing or contracting your mind and/or heart. Pause and allow. Know that little by little you may notice that you're less triggered and that you're starting to feel more spacious and peaceful. Let life be your teacher, and as much as possible, let go of labeling experiences bad or good, important or non-important.
The very attitude of equanimity - not valuing one experience over another - allows us to be with the whole experience, and in so doing, experience our wholeness. ~ Sandra Maitri
Equanimity is a spacious inner stillness that allows us to be more present with all experiences. When we can be present, and mentally and emotionally allow what is, to be with what it is, without utilizing denial, projecting or other avoidance strategies, we're practicing equanimity.
Warmly,
Tone-Lise
